Tips For Encouraging The Off-Beat Bride and Her Groom


I have always wondered why us women are more excited about our big wedding day than our men. We have dreamed about this day since we were kids and now it’s happening! However, not every bride goes crazy over their upcoming wedding day, and to make matters worse, neither do their grooms. If this sounds like you then we have some great tips for the off-beat bride and her groom. It is a lot more encouraging and exciting when your fiancé wants to get involved and participate in all the action and preparation that is needed before the wedding.  In reality, most men don’t really seem to care as much as the women do which leaves them with more work to do. I know I got a lot of “whatever you want honey” from my husband when all I really wanted was his input. Today, we will talk about different ways to get your groom involved in your wedding.

 The Off Beat-Bride Must Communicate With Her Groom

First, the offbeat bride must talk with her groom.  As I mentioned earlier, most brides end up doing most of the work and the role of the groom is to simply show up wearing a suit.  This common misconception actually leaves the groom feeling like he is not needed or even not allowed to help out! So, the first step to involve your groom on your big day is to come right out and say you would like some help.  No matter how much we wish it, they cannot read our minds.  Hopefully this is all you have to say for him to climb aboard the crazy wedding planning extravaganza! It is all about communication and the clearer and upfront you are with what you want or expect the more help and understanding you shall receive.  If this doesn’t work, don’t sweat it, there is much more you can do, keep reading. 

 

The Off-Beat Bride Must Encourage and Support The Groom's Ideas

The next thing the off-beat bride must do is encourage and support his ideas. Nothing is more discouraging then to ask someone for help and then shoot down all of his or her ideas. If you only want to use your ideas and creativity then don’t expect anyone to voluntarily help you out. With that said, your groom will get frustrated if your not allowing any of his input or ideas and you will only lose your planning partner in the end. Instead, when your fiancé comes to you with an idea make sure you show enthusiasm and insist you will try it.  Even if their ideas seem crazy and are in no way shape or form related to your wedding theme, go for it! Lastly, the off beat bride should give her fiancé special projects that cater to his interests.  Some may think men are incapable of anything that has to do with decorating or planning. However, I have seen grooms actually put together a color scheme and even bake their own wedding cakes.

Some may think men are incapable of anything that has to do with decorating or planning. However, I have seen grooms actually put together a color scheme and even bake their own wedding cakes.  Something a lot of guys enjoy is helping pick out the wedding dress.  Although this may seem taboo, many brides are getting their fiance's input on their gown.

Even if it is just getting an idea of what style they like without seeing the actual gown.  Guys can get into the spirit of wedding planning especially if it is in their interests.Is your groom a graphic designer? Allow him to make the wedding invitations. Is your groom good with words? Allow him to write his own vows!  Helping pick out the music, DJ, or band is something most guys really get into.  Simply allow your fiancé to do things that involve his own interests which will leave the off-beat bride and everyone else happy in the end.   And you may even learn something new about your husband-to-be.